
The
holidays are a time to spend with friends and family. Make sure to
look over these great tips on how to be a great houseguest for your
friends and relatives. We hope that everyone has safe travels this
season! You can learn more at the
Metro.
Being
a houseguest can involve more discomfort than than a fold-out couch and
a lumpy pillow. Sharing space with friends and family is often a given
during the holiday season, but it doesn’t have to be as awkward as a
midnight trip to an unknown bathroom. As the CEO and founder of the
design and lifestyle blog Apartment Therapy, Maxwell Ryan knows his way
around a cramped apartment, which is why we asked him for his best
advice on how to survive a stay at with in-laws.
A smooth arrival
The first step of any stay as a guest is the planes, trains and
automobiles that get you there. Ryan says these transitional moments can
be loaded with tension for hosts, and it’s on guests to be clear and
consistent about their arrival times. “If you’re supposed to be arriving
at 6 p.m. on a Friday and you don’t get there until 7 and there are
multiple text messages about where you are and being on your way, it’s
exhausting,” he says. “What’s really helpful to a host is if you arrive
and depart on time” — meaning that guests should figure out how to get
to where they’re going.
Arriving with a gift in hand is another thing Ryan recommends: “I
think it’s better to show up with a gift than to leave a gift. A gift
given at the beginning ‘covers’ your stay, if you will. There’s no
reciprocity if you give first.” Sure, leaving a bottle of wine isn’t an
insult, but arriving with a token of appreciation shows a host that you
thought of them beforehand (though Ryan agrees with your mom — don’t
skip the thank you note.)
During your stay
Routines and schedules can seem like no big deal until you’re hopping
and dodging them like a game of double dutch. Ryan says the simplest
way to ease scheduling mayhem as a houseguest is to respect and adapt to
the routines of the hosts, which can mean asking for specifics and
communicating clearly about schedules. “What’s interesting perhaps is
that the point of it is to be a great guest, because you might not have a
great host,” he says. “There are going to be some geat people out there
in the world who are not the best hosts.”
Towels on the floor might work in your apartment, but they’ll render
you persona non grata in another person’s home. Ryan’s advice is simple:
“Leave the house cleaner than you found it. Put away all the dishes,
wipe down the counters, clean the floors.” While you’re at it, get in on
some sous chef duties — or whip up your own contribution to any shared
meals. It doesn’t hurt, Ryan says, to offer to chip in for groceries or
pick up a nice dessert or bottle of wine to go with a meal.
Go away
Giving your host some time off can be key to making a stay
comfortable for all parties involved, Ryan says. “No matter what your
situation is, plan to have some time away from your hosts, and let them
know that they don’t have to take care of you the whole time,” he
suggests. “Being independent is a really nice strong signal to send to
your hosts.”
Quick tips to houseguest heaven
- Be observant of how your host’s household runs. If you’re observant, you won’t have to ask too many questions.
- Keep the bathroom clean and dry. “In our own homes we don’t mind if
the water sputters so much, but when you’re a guest it means you
probably are using the bathroom more than it would be used, so give
everything a little wipe down when you’re done.”
- Offer to chip in for groceries. “[The offer] doesn’t have to be
accepted to be effective — some hosts like to do everything themselves
and that’s OK, but at least you can say you offered.”
- Always make a good effort to figure something out before asking your host — be a quick study.
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Being a houseguest can involve more discomfort than than a fold-out
couch and a lumpy pillow. Sharing space with friends and family is
often a given during the holiday season, but it doesn’t have to be as
awkward as a midnight trip to an unknown bathroom. As the CEO and
founder of the design and lifestyle blog Apartment Therapy, Maxwell Ryan
knows his way around a cramped apartment, which is why we asked him for
his best advice on how to survive a stay at with in-laws.
A smooth arrival
The
first step of any stay as a guest is the planes, trains and automobiles
that get you there. Ryan says these transitional moments can be loaded
with tension for hosts, and it’s on guests to be clear and consistent
about their arrival times. “If you’re supposed to be arriving at 6 p.m.
on a Friday and you don’t get there until 7 and there are multiple text
messages about where you are and being on your way, it’s exhausting,” he
says. “What’s really helpful to a host is if you arrive and depart on
time” — meaning that guests should figure out how to get to where
they’re going.
Arriving with a gift in hand is another thing Ryan
recommends: “I think it’s better to show up with a gift than to leave a
gift. A gift given at the beginning ‘covers’ your stay, if you will.
There’s no reciprocity if you give first.” Sure, leaving a bottle of
wine isn’t an insult, but arriving with a token of appreciation shows a
host that you thought of them beforehand (though Ryan agrees with your
mom — don’t skip the thank you note.)
During your stay
Routines
and schedules can seem like no big deal until you’re hopping and
dodging them like a game of double dutch. Ryan says the simplest way to
ease scheduling mayhem as a houseguest is to respect and adapt to the
routines of the hosts, which can mean asking for specifics and
communicating clearly about schedules. “What’s interesting perhaps is
that the point of it is to be a great guest, because you might not have a
great host,” he says. “There are going to be some geat people out there
in the world who are not the best hosts.”
Towels on the floor
might work in your apartment, but they’ll render you persona non grata
in another person’s home. Ryan’s advice is simple: “Leave the house
cleaner than you found it. Put away all the dishes, wipe down the
counters, clean the floors.” While you’re at it, get in on some sous
chef duties — or whip up your own contribution to any shared meals. It
doesn’t hurt, Ryan says, to offer to chip in for groceries or pick up a
nice dessert or bottle of wine to go with a meal.
Go away
Giving
your host some time off can be key to making a stay comfortable for all
parties involved, Ryan says. “No matter what your situation is, plan to
have some time away from your hosts, and let them know that they don’t
have to take care of you the whole time,” he suggests. “Being
independent is a really nice strong signal to send to your hosts.”
Quick tips to houseguest heaven
Be observant of how your host’s household runs. If you’re observant, you won’t have to ask too many questions.
Keep the bathroom clean and dry. “In our own homes we don’t mind if
the water sputters so much, but when you’re a guest it means you
probably are using the bathroom more than it would be used, so give
everything a little wipe down when you’re done.”
Offer to chip in for groceries. “[The offer] doesn’t have to be
accepted to be effective — some hosts like to do everything themselves
and that’s OK, but at least you can say you offered.”
Always make a good effort to figure something out before asking your host — be a quick study.